I was very confused and didn’t knew what to write this time. I thought of so many topics but nothing could perfectly fit into my concepts of thoughts to be delivered to you guys! Then it so happened that one of my friend wanted me to post a pic of mine on a social media platform… Initially I didn’t knew what to say….I couldn’t say no because she was a very dear friend of mine….and I really didn’t want to hurt her..so I gave it a second thought.. posting or doing something because your dear one’s wanted you to do that and that you don’t prefer to do so but surprisingly you end up doing that because you don’t want to disappoint anyone in your life..but ever thought of it deeply????
No right….but that day I did something unusual ..I said no,no to her request….because personally I was not interested and I didn’t prefer to do something that actually I was not willing for… I tried my level best not to hurt anyone but that doesn’t mean I have the right to hurt myself or have lost the right to say NO. Then from this strange situation, I got the idea for my next blogg..I felt that most of us may face this dilemma in their life…but the difference is I took out some time to think about this sensitive issue in a different way giving it a different approach….guys! Sometimes its okay to say no..
“Half of the troubles of this life can be traced to saying yes too quickly and not saying no soon enough.”
In today’s fast paced world, it seems like the need to say no is absent in most people. You can’t say no because people will look at you with judging eyes. You can’t say no because you will most likely upset your near and dear ones. And you can’t say no because you feel guilty and scared that no one will like you anymore.I understand your situation completely.
Now it’s confession time!! I was someone who used to say yes all the time too because the thought of saying no cripples me. Now, I regret the times when I failed to say no just because of fear.
“NO “such a small word and yet so many of us have a real problem with it to the point that we can make ourselves ill by always saying, yes, always agreeing to things we don’t want to do and always trying to please others.
My friend, it’s time you start saying no. No to people you don’t like, no to parties you don’t even fancy and certainly no to activities that don’t make you a better person.
Go ahead and say no, because:
1.you don’t owe anybody anything
Contrary to popular opinion, you are not really obligated to do something to someone. Even if you are a great friend, you’re not always obligated to be the subject of your friend’s whim every time.
2. You can never control everybody’s opinion of you.
Whatever you do, whatever you say, people will judge you either fairly or harshly. Don’t sweat this small thing. Don’t let it ruin your day. If you’re basing your decision whether to say yes or to say no on the fact that you care about what other people will say, then stop. It’s not worth all the trouble.
3. You’re the only one who can really identify your priorities in life.
Your happiness will be made up of the choices that you make in life. If you’re not sure about something, say no to it. If you’re hesitant because you know deep inside your heart that you’re not too thrilled about the idea, then say no. If it’s not really what you want,then say no. No one can tell you which specific activities you should be doing to feel happy and fulfilled in life. You are the only one who can do this for yourself.
3.You are the decision maker ; you are the sufferer!
A lot of people ignore this fact but it still is true: you are the person who is going to be mostly affected by the decisions you make in your life. If you decide to do something and fail to follow through, you’re the one who’s going to be most stressed. For example – If you say yes to a lifetime commitment that you’re not really happy about, you’re the one who’s going to suffer terribly in the long run.
5. Life moves on.
Life flows, it moves and it progresses whether you say no or not. You can spend the rest of your life hurrying, fast-tracking and running around because you say yes all the time…
Or you can spend your life relaxing, moving at a gentle pace and savoring every minute because you say no to the things that don’t really matter.Lastly , anyone who can’t say NO is living someone’s else life.Personal power is having the ability to say no..whatever that maybe…start saying yes to empowerment!!
So guys feel ok about saying no to someone you love, to a friend, to a parent or child, to a job or relationship. Its ok to say no to anything or anyone that cause you pain or makes you uncomfortable. You can put yourself first,you can set limits and boundaries. You don’t ever have to settle for something or someone that doesn’t feel right. You should take care of yourself and if that means saying no, it’s more than OK
It’s your call. Live the life you want! Make your own destiny. It all start if you realize that it’s okay to say no.
Hey about that friend..she appreciated me for expressing my views so clearly without hesitating or thinking that what the other person may feel..she also said that it’s rare that people express their feelings as it is..and replied with a smile…”sometimes it’s okay to say NO.”🤗🤗
” I apologize for not posting anything for a long time..for the past few weeks I was busy with my exams. I’ll try not to repeat this… Sorry “